Pink Hair and BlondieLocks: How I Learned to (Almost) Love Wigs

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I’ve had various forms of alopecia areata, from the patchy basic form (which seems to be the first step for many of us) through alopecia universalis. I’d had SO much hair before the car accident that for the first eight or so years, when I was in the early AA stage through ophiasis (when, essentially, the hair from ear to ear, along the sides and back of the head, is lost), I could pretty well manage to cover it up via ponytails or a couple of other styles that would hold what was left in place well enough. About 8-9 years after the accident, though, and during a particularly stressful time at work (I’d changed jobs and was having a rough transition, for many reasons), nearly all the rest fell out. The tiny bit that was left — maybe a couple hundred hairs, no more — turned white.

For the first couple of years of AU, I found myself in this painful limbo of hopefulness (that my hair would come back) and denial (that maybe I really didn’t look like the train wreck that I felt like). Because of this, I didn’t wear wigs and often, didn’t even wear hats. But I couldn’t quite reconcile or accept what my body was doing and it started to have more significant impacts.

I get that ‘it’s only hair’.’ I truly do. Logistically, yes. And there are far worse illnesses with much more significant consequences and I am grateful that a hat or a wig or a great attitude can really be all that I need. I get all of that. Sometimes, though, that knowledge doesn’t totally alleviate the sadness that comes with this. But when I realized just how much of my life I was missing out on and how much it was impacting my relationships, and how ridiculous it was that there was, in fact, at least something I could try, I decided to bite the bullet and go wig shopping.

And, frankly, it sucked. There are very few wig shops near me and those that are here tend to carry styles like Mama, the Vicki Lawrence character from the Carol Burnett show. I tried ordering a couple of wigs online, too, only to have unrecognizable beasts arrive days later.

Finally, I had the idea to look for a snow-white wig. After all, the tiny bit of hair that I had was that color, so maybe the answer was to try and find something that resembled more of the current me than the old me. I found a cute white wig online, ordered it, and again, looked ridiculous.

But that gave me a bit of inspiration. The website was Epic Cosplay and after perusing the different wigs they had, I fell in love with a pink and white fusion wig, simply styled, called Theia. When it arrived, I knew I’d found my answer. Theia (actually, about 20 of her over the years) and I went everywhere together. I had pink hair before it was commonplace and I loved it.

Alas, though, when everyone started to have pink hair, I started to get bored with it and the search for my next hair began. Once again, too, it was a bit of torture. The pickings here in my home town are indeed still slim and buying online is a crapshoot, at best, and I’ve wasted a lot of money on styles that, in reality, are nothing like their deftly styled counterparts online.

But through this slog, I’ve also discovered BlondieLocks. If anyone can make it more fun to have AA or any type of hair loss, it is BlondieLocks. She, too, is going through her own health-related hair loss, knows how tricky it is to secure a wig to a bald head, understands the simple longing for an updo, and makes trying new wigs an adventure.

In the end, while AA may be a sign of a deeper issue (or several), its symptom — hair loss — doesn’t have to be devastating. There are ways to deal with it positively or not. The choice is ours.

{Image from Epic Cosplay at}

{Note: These are my own experiences with applied kinesiology, which clearly aren’t meant as medical advice for anyone else. But I know a lot of friends and family members are grappling with a huge variety of autoimmune issues and other ailments, so I’m happy to share my experiences. And if this is your first visit and you’d like to follow chronologically, click here. Otherwise, enjoy!}

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